Comments on: The Continental Drift http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/2009/03/04/the-continental-drift/ reflections on pop culture Mon, 12 Oct 2009 13:13:31 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: James http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/2009/03/04/the-continental-drift/#comment-88 James Wed, 20 May 2009 20:17:53 +0000 http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/?p=125#comment-88 I think to some extent, anywhere in the contemporary western society is now like this and it sucks! I'm British but I now live in Canada with my wife. I had lots of friends in England and it was very difficult to leave them, but the thing that got me through the severing of those ties was thinking to myself: "Well, you made good friends here, I'm sure you'll do it there too". Wrong. The fact that I moved from an artsy college town to in England to rural Ontario certainly didn't help, but arrkay is right; to some extent you always need a foundation to build on in order to make new friends. In some places its probably much worse than others. Besides, I came across your blog via mkupperman on twitter, so if I can start talking to you from Canada, some minded SF residents have to find you sooner or later. The thing is there are lots of other people in the same situation as yourself, so once you find them you're sorted. I hope that was of some help or comfort anyway! I think to some extent, anywhere in the contemporary western society is now like this and it sucks!

I’m British but I now live in Canada with my wife. I had lots of friends in England and it was very difficult to leave them, but the thing that got me through the severing of those ties was thinking to myself: “Well, you made good friends here, I’m sure you’ll do it there too”.

Wrong. The fact that I moved from an artsy college town to in England to rural Ontario certainly didn’t help, but arrkay is right; to some extent you always need a foundation to build on in order to make new friends. In some places its probably much worse than others.

Besides, I came across your blog via mkupperman on twitter, so if I can start talking to you from Canada, some minded SF residents have to find you sooner or later. The thing is there are lots of other people in the same situation as yourself, so once you find them you’re sorted. I hope that was of some help or comfort anyway!

]]> By: mkupperman2 http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/2009/03/04/the-continental-drift/#comment-87 mkupperman2 Fri, 15 May 2009 23:47:14 +0000 http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/?p=125#comment-87 A lot of what you're describing is very familiar to me. I can believe San Francisco is a colder city than, say, New York, but I also think people in general are bad at genuine (democratic) interaction these days. I had some really lousy times in NY too! A lot of what you’re describing is very familiar to me. I can believe San Francisco is a colder city than, say, New York, but I also think people in general are bad at genuine (democratic) interaction these days. I had some really lousy times in NY too!

]]> By: arrkay http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/2009/03/04/the-continental-drift/#comment-84 arrkay Sat, 07 Mar 2009 22:28:27 +0000 http://biggestmirror.wordpress.com/?p=125#comment-84 I've been hearing this from a lot of people. One friend in a similar situation in SF got told this: "San Francisco doesn't do scrappy. The town has no underdog mentality. You've got to be the very best and at the top of your game from the time you arrive." Which seemed like it might resonate with you - poeple having their own lives set up already with no desire to include more people in them. In any case, I'm sorry this has been so hard. Also, I kind of hate myself for even suggesting it, but... does the Harvard club of SF do bar nights for young grads? The one up here does pan-Ivy bar nights, which I have never been to, but people seem to be making friends and forming posses there. Yeah ok, I feel dirty for suggesting that. Thinking of you. I’ve been hearing this from a lot of people. One friend in a similar situation in SF got told this:

“San Francisco doesn’t do scrappy. The town has no underdog mentality. You’ve got to be the very best and at the top of your game from the time you arrive.”

Which seemed like it might resonate with you – poeple having their own lives set up already with no desire to include more people in them.

In any case, I’m sorry this has been so hard.

Also, I kind of hate myself for even suggesting it, but… does the Harvard club of SF do bar nights for young grads? The one up here does pan-Ivy bar nights, which I have never been to, but people seem to be making friends and forming posses there.

Yeah ok, I feel dirty for suggesting that.

Thinking of you.

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